When I look back on my 30 years as a relationship therapist working with individuals, parents and couples, I can say a one word answer to the question above. Fear! To those of you who say, I’m not afraid of anything! The truth is… everyone is afraid of something. Chances could be that your fears live underground in well-camouflaged tunnels. But they are there. We keep our fears below the radar so our unacceptable emotions are kept under wraps. And how do we do that? Rather than go inside of ourselves and confront our fears, we begin to search for answers outside of ourselves. So much easier to hide our fears by saying what the other person should do differently ….rather than what we are going to do differently.
From A New Fearless You, by Evonne Weinhaus & Cindy Smith
Evonne Weinhaus, LPC;LCSW
Certified IMAGO Couples Therapist
Co-author of Stop Struggling With Your Teen & A New Fearless You
Creator of One Minute Solutions Audio Courses
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