If you have something important you want to discuss with your spouse or partner, asking “Is now a good time to talk?” can make a big difference.
It gives the other person a “heads up” that you want their undivided attention, that this is important to you, that you want them to really listen to you. It also shows that you are respectful of their time and are not assuming that they are available on your time schedule. If your partner or spouse says no, it’s not a good time, accept that and ask for an appointment within 24 hours when he/she will talk to you.
(Attributed to Barbara Fontana)
Evonne Weinhaus
Certified Imago Couples Therapist
Co-author of Stop Struggling With Your Teen
Creator of One Minute Solutions Audio Courses
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